Next one down on my siggy line...
Wife of Fred for 23 years
My children around the world:
Milly in Taiwan
Eun Hae in South Korea
Felice in Hong Kong
Nadya in Germany
Obrin in New York
And our critters Annabelle, Fiona, Sunny, Sophie, Cindy-Lou and Blue; Mamfy, Mali and Punkin; Nick; Frog 1 and Horny Toad; Charlie and Dizzy; Minnie and Alice; Elfie, Frex, Crope, Tibbit and Ozzy; Genevieve, Pippin and Finnegan; and a dozen or so chooks.
I'd like to ask God why He allows
hunger, poverty, and injustice
in the world,but I'd be afraid
He'd ask me the same thing ...
Is Eun Hae.
Eun Hae (pronounced Oon Hay) was our second exchange student. She was 16 when she came to us; an extremely shy, quiet little girl all the way from South Korea.
I don't believe she really wanted to be an exchange student, but entered the program out of duty to her parents.
She was unfailingly sweet, and always willing to please. Bella bonded with her instantly, and became Eun Hae's little security blanket.
She became very close with another exchange student, Felice from Hong Kong who joined us later in the school year (more on her next week), as well as a student from Taiwan that lived about a mile down the road from us, but didn't make too many other close friends.
She enjoyed singing in the school choir and became close with her music teacher. This teacher's husband was pastor at a church near the school, and Eun Hae came to love that church. She's a very spiritual girl, that one.
Eun Hae had a few quirky mannerisms, which we loved her for. One was her efforts to keep out of the sun. Apparently, in South Korea, pale skin is sought after the way tans are sought after here in the good ol' US of A. Eun Hae had what she considered to be dark skin. Too dark. She hated it and fought the sun like a vampire. If she were in the car with us, she would often wear sunglasses, and put a piece of paper under the sunglasses to form a mask over the lower half of her face. We tried to explain to her that the windows were tinted and she would not get any sun through them, but she wasn't taking any chances. Or for example, if I were to take all the kids out to the shoe store or something, when she got out of the car she would hunker down in the parking lot in the shadow of the car, desperately trying to keep out of the sun while I got the kids out of the car. Funny girl.
But she was a good student, a wonderful big sister and daughter. Saying goodbye to her at the airport was a miserably sad moment. In her life and in mine.
And do you know that poor little girl, in every communication with me since, has not gone once without berating herself for not being a better daughter? She says once she got home she realized how great she had it with us, what a wonderful family we were, and how she did not join in enough, or show us how much she appreciated us.
Here's an old email from her:
Hi it's me. EunHae.
it's cold. isn't it... i got a cold.
did you have a wonderful christmas and New Year. in korea, we have new year's day on January 1st but we celebrate it February.
Now i'm studing hard like i did before... and i'm sorry that i didn't contact with you for like 1or 2 ( or more than that ) month(s). i wonder what's going on there.
everytime the life here is harsh and unbearable, i think of the time i stayed there.
it was like heaven. and so comfortable.... so i want to say thank you again.
so how are you doing???? and how kids are doing???? i wonder what's going on in America.
now i'm going school and i went to some tranning center from church last week.
it was so awesome and great. the pastor was great and his church was one of the most largest church in korea (or maybe in the world.. ) it was really huge and great....
and when he lectured, i sometimes slept but i think it was good and nice that i didn't regret going there.
i think my life is changing.. i'm studying really hard( i think) and i will follow what my parents and pastor say..
and i think most of the students in our church were changed.... .... i'm so glad... ....
now i'm leading praising part in church. it's kind of hard, but i'm trying to do my best.
miss you, love you so much.... and those old days...
i regret that i dind't give you many things which i can give... and i didn't do my best there.
i once again want to say sorry to you and have a good day..
miss you love you
from South Korea EunHae
I surely hope she learns to develop more confidence in herself along the way, because she's really a great kid.
She just doesn't know it.